Currently I am in my last year of university. Like all things the end might seem far away, but two weeks ago it hit me that my days at school are ending really soon. My whole life I have been going to school and now it starts to hit me that after this there will be no time, no school ever again. I first did my bachelor in Law in Rotterdam and by the time my bachelor ended I was 21 and had no clue what to do with my life. So I decided to study again and do a Pre-Master in European Union Studies and the Master afterwards. Why, would you think. Because school felt safe and studying is fun. At school you know what to do and you have your friends around you the whole time. You know when you have an exam and you know what will be expected from you. Now my lasts days at uni are here, (I am 23 now) I want to enjoy every last minute of it. And I know I will because I have to write my thesis so that means spending hours and hours in the library, drinking too much water and eat too much shitty food from the café.
In the meantime I also have to think about the future, that is the thing that scares the
shit out of me and my friends. Real life is arriving, what are we going to do after school? Finding a job these days is really hard. Some of us are going to do an internship, some of us want to work. I want to work, I feel like I am ready now. But maybe only because of the fact that me and my boyfriend Mike are going away next year for our long planned world trip. So maybe this year I end up at a job I didn’t study for because in one year we will be gone.. But that is fine! After my world trip though I really want to work!
How to deal with stress?
Studying is fun, I really love it but there are also downsides to it for me. From the age of twelf I started to have hyperventilation ‘attacks’ or ‘moments’. I normally do breathe very fast and when I feel stressed I can end up having a ‘hyper’ moment in which I have pain in my heart and can’t breathe properly. It was in the period when I went to high school. I had anxiety to fail my tests. I know that now, but I didn’t know that at the time. I got into therapy to control my breathing and all was fine after. One tip from me to you is when you expierence stress, find a moment for yourself at one point of the day and just lay down and focus on your breathing. This really helps relieving stress. Because you focus so much on your breathing, your mind has no room to think of anything else and you will calm down. I don’t have hyperventilation that often anymore, maybe once a year now. I feel when it could come and then I try to take a moment and lay down amd the anxiety feeling will be gone before I can start to hyperventilate.
But that doesn’t mean I do not majorly stress out everytime I have an exam. For me it is like running a marathon, and I definitely need a good shower afterwards (TMI). What I now do to stay calm is I use homeopathic medicins that help me stay calm. They are called Valdispert. It has valerian in it. Valerian soothes nerves, calms feelings of agitation, improves the readiness to go to sleep and soothes feelings of anxiety and stress. It is not bad for you and it has no side affects. If you suffer from anxiety, nerves or major stress attacks before an exam I really recommend valerian. It helped for me! Good luck studying and try not to stress out.
Now it is time to study again because one thing deadlines do not do, is wait!
Hope to see you soon on my blog again, with love Irina
We are in those days, THE days before summer.. Before we have to jump in our bikini’s or boardshort for the guys amongst us. The last three summers I was a kitesurf instructor, so I didn’t had to think about what to eat or when to sport because I was active whole day long! But in the winter when the days are too cold to surf, or I just don’t have the time because of school, I need to find different ways to stay active.
My current workout routine consists of two workouts per week. Nothing too crazy but I notice that they are effective. Once, sometimes twice a week I go swimming in an indoor swimming pool. I swim for around 45 minutes and reach the 1,5 kilometers. Fact, for every minute you swim you burn 10 calories, and it is a great totall body workout! The other workout I do once a week is running. I really struggle everytime to go out and go running, this because I do not like it that much. But running is effective, and since I live by the sea running along the coastline isn’t that bad. Everytime I run I go for 5 kilometers in 30 minutes, that counts for an average of 360 calories. Now I know it isn’t about counting calories but I just want to give an example! Ofcourse eating healthy and proportionate and resting is really important too!! And when school is getting a little bit less time consuming and the weather is becoming better I will be back on the water everyday the wind blows. So then I will switch from this routine to my happy mermaid kiting routine. Kitesurfing is a really good totall body workout and it also clears your mind. Let it be a thing on your bucket list!
It is good to find a sport, workout or exercise you like. If swimming or running is not your thing then all is fine! Most important is to enjoy your workout and workout area (like running by the sea is my thing, but running on concrete not really). Or find yourself someone to workout with! Another tip is to set a goal for yourself, if you want to accomplish a goal set by yourself and you have the willpower then GO and be active! For example if you want to run 15 kilometers once in your life then do it!
I am curious for your workout routines! Let me know in the comments below & don’t forget to subscribe to my blog and receive a notification everytime I upload a blogpost!
Have a nice workout, with love Irina.
I was so excited Insurgent was out in the theaters, so the first night I had free time I went straight to the theater to wacht it. I was already a huge fun of divergent. Normally I am not an action film type of girl but lately with the Hunger games series, the Maze runner series and the Divergent series I’m all into action films. But last night Insurgent kept me thinking about life. If you do not know about the series I will give you a short summary. Basicly the characters live in a designed world where at age sixteen they have to choose a faction. There are five factions, Abnegation for the selfless; Amity for the peaceful; Candor for the honest; Dauntless for the brave and Eridute for the intellectual. There are also factionless people, they do not belong to any of the factions above.Then there is Tris she is divergent, she does belong to all factions. But when people (Eridute) finds out that someone is divergent they will haunt them down. So Tris hides the fact that she is divergent and joins Dauntless..
Back to my story, Insurgent the second film of the Divergent series is about the divergents standing up to Eridute who say that divergents are a threat to society. I will not go further into detail because I do not want to spoil the film. But the film gave a good overview of the factions and it looked really similar to real life. In real life at the age 20 – 25 we are supposed to choose our future jobs/career path. This can be formed by the study we chose or the things we aspire and our character. For Dauntless we have our armed forces, Amity for human rights and freedom speakers, for Eridute we have the people who study endlessly and work in business, Candor for our law making bodies and courts, and Abnigation for nurses and people in the hospitals and schools. I just give an example here, I do not want to stigmatize any jobs or say that one faction is better then another. Because in real life we need every of the above characters as I say it. Without people in the hospital we will not survive illness, without people in the court there will be no justice and so on.
At last we have the factionless, and this is wat we are all scared for in life, that we don’t fit in. I tried to fit myself into a faction, just to see where I would fit in the most. It would definitely not fit in Dauntless I am scared of too much things. It wouldn’t be in Abnegation, I am more on the Amity side. Family and friends are really important to me, if they have something I would and wish that I could do someting to help them. But Erudite also intrigues me because I like to study (but I don’t like exams!). But the people in Erudite in the film are not so nice so I will hold on to Amity.
To wrap it up, the film captures the struggles of growing up and making life choices. Which faction, which career in life are you going to choose? I have a strong feeling against that and I am all for exploring what you want in life and going through different phases in life. But I do need to say that you should take responsibility for your future and it does not come with the wind so fight for it yourself! Just like Tris, and do that with the people you love around you. They make life so much easier.
GO WATCH THE FILM! You will be blown away.
With love, Irina.
Today is a good day to write down your bucket list. That is already the first step to start with. Everyone has that one thing that he or she wants to do but never really actually does. It is always in your mind, so to start off write it down! If you don’t have anything you can think of what you want to try or do before you die, you sure have after you read this post! I will also provide you with a list of my ‘must does before I can’t anymore’. A bucket list is something where you can go all out of your comfort zone. To do the crazy, memorable, beautiful things in life alone or with somebody else. Don’t think I can’t, or that will never happen, a positive mindset is the way to start.
My bucket list in a random order, because I love it all!
1. Buy an old car, preferably a Volkswagen campervan.
2. Worldtrip, where I get really lost in nature & sea (next year!!)
3. Write a book
4. Start a blog
5. Run a race, for which you actually get a medal at the end. (Maybe a 15 km one day?)
6. Visit all the Northern Islands of the Netherlands
7. To actually speak French fluent, not as crappy as I do now.
8. To teach at a school, english, history or geography
9. To do voluntary work in Africa, by building schools or houses for example
11. Open a Bed&Breakfast
I can go on and on, but this is just an example. To learn a new sport; to learn a new language; go to new places; everything can be on your bucket list. But make sure to make a difference between items that are on your bucket list and between an ideal that you have or how you want your future to look like. Bucket list items are more things that you want to do not about what you want your life to look like. If you are scared to do things alone, you can always ask somebody else to join you on your bucket list items and share the fun. Everytime something pops up in your head that you really want to do in life, just write it down! In the picture above you can see my ”bucket list book” wherein all my items are written down. Have a nice weekend and start working on your bucket list!
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With love, Irina
Yeayy, the time has finally come! My dream come true, Moment of Happiness is my new blog! The website will be launched within a month.. Currently I am busy with making photo’s & writing posts. You can find information over the blog under ‘about’ and see what the content of this blog is! You can find my contact details under the header ‘contact’.
Hope to see you soon again on my Blog!
Stay tuned, with love Irina.